Only Child

If you had asked me last week, "Do you have any siblings?"

The answer would have "I have an older half sister and half brother from my bio-dad's first marriage."

As of last night, I can now say "NO, I am my mother's only child and my bio-dad's only child."



What happened?



Last night my husband got home from a gig and told me he had run into bio-dad's sister, my aunt Sue. She proceeded to bend his ear and let him know that truth had come out about bio-dad's first wife and how neither of those kids belong to him.



Here we have all lived forty years thinking that those were his kids.



Let me just lay it bare for you here. Doug(bio-dad's name) had to marry Evil Jean*(first wife and really bad person) because she was pregnant with the first child. Then they later had the boy. Now I still have my doubts about my brother. When you stand us side by side you can see a resemblance. I think Evil Jean is just saying this to hurt Doug, but whatever, it's her soul that is in peril-not mine. No blood or DNA tests have taken place either. That would have been my first stop on this crazy train but no one asked me to be the engineer.



My entire life, Doug had to live outside the state of KY and away from his parents and siblings because Evil Jean would not leave him alone. Every holiday that he would come to visit, she would have him arrested for non-support and thrown in jail. This would upset Papaw to the point he would have to be hospitalized with a heart attack. I CAN NOT TELL YOU THE HELL EVIL JEAN PUT PAPAW AND GRANNY THROUGH. There have been so many incidents of Evil Jean's behavior and things she did and said to Granny and Papaw that were just awful.



Papaw and Granny were good, honest, giving, devoutly Christian people. Papaw would even fill in as pastor when the church was in need. Granny would gladly give you the shirt off her back if you needed it. Anyone that came to Granny's house, they first thing she asked was "Can I get you something to eat?" She was an amazing cook. She was able to do so much with so little. They totally did not deserve the crap that this creature inflicted upon them.



Doug would not work at any job where he would be on an official payroll with taxes and the like, because Evil Jean had his wages garnished.



Now looking back at it, I can not believe that she carried on like this for so many years if she knew neither kid belonged to Doug. Especially since the man who is supposed to be the father of the girl is really wealthy. It would have been a heck of a lot easier to get money from alleged father than Doug.



My mother told me this morning how Papaw used to sit and tell her what a good kid Doug had been before he fell in with Evil Jean and her family. And by all accounts it is true, Doug who was athletically gifted, had to give up playing on the basketball team and get a job to help support the family when Papaw got sick and could no longer support the family.

I truly don't know what else to say. I can't help but think how different ALL of our lives would have been had the truth come out forty years ago. Maybe Doug wouldn't have been such a raging drunk if he didn't have Evil Jean breathing down his neck all the time. Maybe he wouldn't have molested me.

I think of the cruelty that Evil Jean inflicted on Granny and Papaw and the toll it took on their health.

I think of how cruel it must be to live your whole life thinking someone is your dad and then finding out at nearly forty years old that it is someone else.

*Evil Jean, is the name HER GRAND KIDS call her. Evil substituting for Eva.