Growing up I did not have a father. He abandoned me and never looked back. Instead he took up with some chick who had five kids with five different(and absent) dads and raised them for her. He lavished them with his time and attention, and material things; me he molested.
Mother and I never got one thin dime from him in child support; he gave Barbara's kids cars for their sweet sixteen's . Oh yeah, and when all of Barbara's kids were graduated from high school, she threw him out.
I have already told you about my maternal grandfather and how I loved him. He was there for me every day. I loved him so much and still do. I shudder to think what would have happened to me if he had not been there to guide and nurture me.
But this is not about them. This is about my husband Todd. He did not have the best childhood. I won't go into what he had to endure, but it wasn't pretty. Knowing his upbringing, he could have many excuses to fail, rather than reasons to succeed. He is loving and gentle, so different from how he grew up. Most importantly he is there for our son. I am so proud of the strong, loving man he has become.
So to my husband, Happy Father's Day, with love.
YOU HAVE HEARD OF STUCK ON STUPID, TRY BEING STUCK ON LUNATIC!
SOMETIMES FUNNY, SOMETIMES SAD, BUT MOSTLY A CRAZY RIDE!
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There are days that I stare at my husband in amazement that he is the man that he is too, Heather. How he could be raised in the family that he was and turn out to be such a selfless, loving, and compassionate man is beyond me?
Life boils down to two things: character and choices.
Sounds like our husbands are the complete package of both of these!
That's good to hear. And I can vouch for the fact that trying to become a positive father can be tough when your only example sucked so badly.
i feel ya, girl...me and you...like this (pointing fingers)...
i'm glad you were close to your grandfather...i was close to mine as well.
You and Deanna are right ... men who love and spend time with their children are rare indeed! I'm so, so lucky to have hubby. And I know it! Good for you for showing Todd how much you appreciate him, as a husband and as a father.
There's something to be said for playing the cards your dealt and making a good suit of them! Kudos to him for not letting his past dictate his future.
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